Ten on Tuesday

Time to lighten up a bit. Here are some fun items of interest!

1. HB Farmer Market Strawberries. I love strawberries. These are organic….you can tell because they all look misshapen (like butts).

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2. Here is Peter and his new dog. They love each other.

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3. Here is a picture that Sally drew of Peter and his dog. Too cute.

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4. Somebody figured out how to work the sippy cup. (blurry photo, makes it more exciting! N’est pas?)

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5. Signing a bill with 20 pens must be REALLY difficult. A task that is sure to require the level of signature practice of a girl in love.
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6. 1st shoulder ride. Kurt is TALL. Peter is TALL. This may prove to be impossible later on. Hair reigns made Peter laugh… Daddy, notsomuch (ouchie).
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Concentration. Walking with help. New Shoes.
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8. Ankle crossing – this is his thing. He’s always done it. It is really cute.

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9. Eastertime Care Package from my pals. The items are clever but it is the friendships that are very meaningful to me.

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10. THREE.

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Keeping it Light & Salty

There’s a story here and a lesson to be learned.

Recently, I tried to engage in a relationship with another half-sister on facebook. (We live far apart and facebook would be the only means of relationship. Especially since my dad died.) That attempt ended yesterday following a very hurtful exchange directed to me (and my Mom and brother). Her message to me was purely based on her resentment/bitterness/jealousy from 40 years ago and her false beliefs about me and my family. The exchange started when she made a status update linking to an article about Christians. I responded with good intentions in truth and love by saying that just because we attend church doesn’t make us perfect people…but that’s not the point. Well, that led to her asking what Dad would have thought about the subject and then she
spiraled out of control into all of these judgments and accusations about things that happened 40 years ago. Without stating any specifics, she was hurtful and venomous. She made claims and statements that were horrible. I did not respond to that message – I couldn’t because I was overwhelmed.

After praying about it and discussing it with my support system I made the choice to “unfriend” her on facebook. Only, when I went to do so, she had already “unfriended” me.

After thinking about this over and again, I read my Bible: Matthew 5 and Psalm 139.

The link she posted (about Christians) is exactly what this is all about. NEWSFLASH: I am not perfect, nobody is! But I have a relationship with the God of the universe. He created me, he loves me and he offers me GRACE. I stood up for Christianity
to her on facebook. We are called as Christians to be “light” and “salt.” If I had kept my mouth shut this probably wouldn’t have happened; I would have a shallow meaningless relationship with a “sister” who secretly hates my existence and I would have walked away from an opportunity to witness to her (while sharing my faith). I am at peace with this because it is out of my hands.

SIDE NOTE ON DIVORCE: It can wreck children’s lives. It can wreck people’s hearts. One thing is for sure, it always hurts. It leaves indelible scars on your heart. BUT there is hope. God is a restorer, a healer and HE can make you new. I truly believe that. Christianity aside, (because some people who read this may tune out at the Christian stuff – I hope you don’t though) if you have this type of hurt in your life, you need to seek professional therapy. The pain of divorce can be unbearable without help. Going without professional help can make a bad situation (divorce, Maybe it isn’t actual divorce but
abandonment of some kind) even worse (addiction, repetition of pattern, depression, etc). You are worthwhile, ask for help.

SIDE NOTE ON CHURCHGOERS AND HATE: If you are a Christian who hates, please be aware that people are watching. They don’t understand God’s grace and they are completely off-put by you as a representative of Christ. You might need to look at it hard and make some revisions. Whether the issue is gay marriage, the President, immigration, any “hot-button” issue, we really need to treat others how Christ would treat them. Let’s not be legalistic and judging – that’s not our place ultimately. Love your neighbor, that’s what we need to do.

Character

I’ve been thinking about character often lately. Let’s start with the definition. That’s usually a good jumping off point.

Merriam Webster defines it as:  -one of the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individualthe complex of mental and ethical traits marking and often individualizing a person, group, or nation -main or essential nature especially as strongly marked and serving to distinguish -moral excellence and firmness

According to CharacterCounts.org there are Six Pillars of Character – Trustworthiness, Respect, Responsibility, Fairness, Caring, Citizenship.

As a Christian, I’ve heard the term “the character of Christ” spoken often. He pretty much had the most righteous character of all time.

What about my character? What about yours?

Why is it that character is built into children, purposefully by
parents, schoolteachers, churches but it just has to HAPPEN to adults?

For example, as a child everyone is trying to instill in you those six pillars (Trustworthiness, Respect, Responsibility, Fairness, Caring, Citizenship). Children are taught lessons on the values of those things. They are faced with the consequences of not being a good citizen or not being respectful.

Adults are often times the ones who need these lessons. For example, people in the service industry should be treated with respect and fairness. Just because hey are a waiter or a cashier does not entitle one to be a jerk to them. AND The other drivers on the road are people with live and families; they are not just cars with faceless drivers.  People sometimes are in such a hurry in lines that they do not consider anyone else but their own needs or desires. They cheat in the express lane or cut in line in front of you. I’m sure we could all think of a million different peeves or problems where a dose of integrity and respect
would be helpful.

I certainly know I am guilty of showing the a lack of character sometimes. As a Christian, I am called to distinguish myself by displaying attributes of mental/ethical traits with moral excellence and firmness. What I mean to say is. Christians are called to be different. NOT to be PERFECT. That’s impossible. I will never be perfect. We will fail to even TRY to be perfect.

What I will do: Not put myself first. Treat others how I would want to be treated. Build my character myself rather than letting it just happen to me.

“You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one.” -Henry David Thoreau

I encourage you to think about your character. How can you develop yours? Not sure? Well pick an area and go for it.

Current Events Post (Pictureless)

Just a few items below will update you on us. Enjoy.

~Effective 7 March 2010, Peter is 8 months old. Wow. He’s done so much in the past 8 months. He is a few months away from being 1 year old. But the next few months bring new challenges, exciting milestones and just plain baby stuff.

~Lately, Peter and I have done lotsa walking. I am eating right (meaning, no sweets). I did HAVE TO have a Shamrock shake the other night though. I had a small one though and I savored it because I won’t have another shake for quite a while. Believe me, I di not want to go to McDonalds, neither did Kurt. But we had to. The Shamrock shake beckoned us.

~Kurt and Peter have gotten some baby & Daddy time on the the evenings when I go to Hoag to work. I think it is great for them both and for me. It affects each of us in different ways but it all winds up being good for us all.

~Kurt and I gave Peter an AWFUL
gift for turning 8 months old…… a COLD. His very first illness. It was (and still is) horrible to see him sick. I hate it. His rosy cheeks are pretty cute but I’d prefer my healthy baby. Oh and he makes this weird squeaky noise on demand with his nose/throat that is pretty awesome. Baby sneezes are cute too; but the snot that accompanies the sneeze is not.

~We’ve scheduled the surgery for Peter. I don’t really want to say when or where because this is the internet. (Stranger danger! But let me just say: It is before he turns 12 months.) I’ll mention this on facebook as the time gets closer so true friends can have more details.

Please pray for peace of mind for us until then. While we are glad to have this “end in sight” (for one of the kidneys) we are scared because of the grand scheme of it all.  Nobody wants to hand their baby over for surgery. Heck, I’ve never even had surgery (not counting my wisdom teeth extraction). I will fully admit that this is
scary. At the same time, fear is a terrible time waster. I’ve seen it ravage people’s lives. I will not stand for that. God — He is higher than us all and even higher than emotions or fear or anything else. Kim and Teona recently said that there are things that you cannot determine whether they are good or bad while you are “in” it. This was a conversation about the book “The Shack.” Sometimes the situation seems bad but it turns out to be a step in the direction of good. Only God can do that – turn bad into good. Perfect example, My Mom had to hand her little baby boy off to a surgeon more than once. So she can big time understand. So we’ll trust in Him – that there is good from this in the long-run.

~I am playing uh, 8 people on words with friends right now. It is hard. I am not winning many of the matches.

~I am working on the photo archive project still. I’m getting closer to being caught up like we’re talking I am to August 2009.

~Kurt and I are doing a little ancestry
project too. That is pretty fun. Interesting information. More to come on that.

Edited to add:

~bought a new car. 2007 Honda Accord Hybrid

Eyebrows

I love Real Simple magazine. Fortunately, I got a subscription for a steal on Amazon-dot-com. Get this, it was only $5 for the whole year! (One mag off the supermarket rack costs $4.50, yikes)

In January, Sania Vucetaj a renowned eyebrow expert was in the mag and also on The Today Show. Pair the love of the mag with my love of The Today Show and I got a message sent out loud and clear. “You usually don’t need to remove much,” notes Vucetaj. So my secret revelation was I should let my brows have a break from plucking (except for he outliers -they need to go). Then I can ensure my arches and edges are correctly in line with her system.

Here is the “How-To” in case you were wondering or need help.

There are loads f other how-to’s on the site. (One old fave
of mine is t-shirt folding).

Ch-ch-ch-check ’em out… you MIGHT learn something awesome.

Retrospective

It should be noted that they do not have a bank of payphones at Metro Pointe. However, it is unknown whether they are pager-friendly or not.

Pay Phone

Baby hats are sometimes very cute.

Hat!

Yeah, I bought a Macramé plant hanger. Yep, and I put a plant in it. Uh-huh, and I hung it in my house. Believe it or not, it is cool an I like it. It turns out all the hooks in my 1970’s house were meant for this purpose.

Peace Lily - Spathiphyllum

I bought this little hot/cold water bag for future boo-boo situations. I hope Peter will appreciate its awesomeness.

Waterbag

This is right after one of our walks last week. His smile is pretty great.

Walking Buddy

I almost bought a “real” one of these the other day at The Container Store. I wasn’t sure about the size and fit of the plastic one from The Container Store. So I decided t make my own out of the cardboard flats from Peter’s food. It was
super easy, a perfect fit and free.

Can Storage

Star Wars T-shirt… Daddy is so proud!

Star Wars T-shirt

We spent Valentine’s Day at Disneyland. It was super fun to be able to go run around like daters (without a stroller). I love Valentine’s day because I love pink, red, hearts, love, flowers, chocolates, and all it brings. We saw a couple of ladies on treasure hunts (engagements?) – that is a fun idea for sure.

Valentine Love

Sweetie Peter.

Peter 7 months